No 6th Birthday Party

No 6th Birthday Party


Birthday parties… they’re a complicated business right?

Which side of the fence do you stand on?

Are they misery wrapped in shiny paper or joy bundled up in a bow?

Well, this year I made the decision not to do a party. Here are my reasons why.

Parties are expensive!
Let’s talk about the guest list. Everyone from school seem to be invited, plus family, cousins, nursery friends and the twins from dance camp three years ago. Doing a party at home isn’t an option for us as we don’t have the space, we had a party in our local dance studio last year but it cost £10 a head which adds up fast.

Party Bags
What do you put in them? All the plastic ‘stuff’ is pricey. The teacher in me wouldn’t just allow me to fill them with aimless rubbish – so last year we bought colouring books, then these needed bigger bags and pencil sets… you see where I’m going here…


Pass the Parcel
Paper cuts – need I say more?

There’s always that fear about having 28 kids confirmed and then no-one showing up. What happens if my poor little dear ends up with noone able to make it and they cancel on the day? Argh! 

Cake attempts
I love making Holly’s yearly birthday cake. Hooooowever, this often becomes a massive udnertaking. Damn you Pinterest for making things look easy! I always end up pulling an all nighter to make a three tiered, pink blended Shopkin wonder! See previous cake attempts here.


It’s all over
Then – it’s done. The tears of not winning the games, things not going to plan, Ariel having a scary wonky wig… was it worth the hundreds of pounds these things cost?!

Do you remember that really good party where… oh no wait… because most parties end up being pretty similar and trying to make one that’s different isn’t an easy task! 

This year we’re not so sure about the party lark. So I had a chat with Holly and we decided to go on an adventure instead this year. We’ve planned a three day girls trip to London with all sorts of bells and whistles. Three days in London – and it works out cheaper than last year’s Pirate vs Princess Party!

Maybe I’m being too cynical? What are your thoughts on the party business?




  1. Tracy Abson
    19th August 2017 / 12:21 pm

    Indeed it’s a dilemma and yes we have the same conversation every year with our twins. But nope, never mind an adventure they always choose a party! So then the stress – (I do have room at my house but it’s a stress too much to have it at home!) where to have the party, somewhere different, how much to spend, invite them all or decide who to invite…or not! List goes on. This year there wasn’t enough food provided, the disco part of the party was too short and one kid punched another! However, the girls LOVED every minute of their party and for them it’s what a birthday is all about. In another year or two ‘parties’ might not be cool anymore and bowling might be more preferable, so for now we are granting our princess’s wishes and doing parties. It’s all about them at this age after all.
    Look forward to hearing about your big birthday adventure xx

    • BeckyBrightSide
      29th August 2017 / 10:34 am

      I totally agree. Holly has always loved her parties but last year’s just felt like a LOT of work! I’m definitely thinking that smaller parties with a few friends is where we’ll go from here.
      Your party sounds a bit stressful this year – but as long as the girls are happy you’re right – keep doing them!

  2. 19th August 2017 / 4:50 pm

    My girls only had birthday parties when they were really young. 4 and under. My girls birthdays are in August & the beginning of September so to arrange a party would be a nightmare when they hardly see their school friends during the summer holidays. For their birthdays now we just go out as a family for a meal….They choose where to and they really enjoy it. x

    • BeckyBrightSide
      29th August 2017 / 10:35 am

      It’s lovely that so many different things work. Holly is end of August too and it certainly makes things complicated. I think next year we’ll do dinner with a few friends in September. I think for now ‘big’ parties might be over for us. As long as they’re enjoying it that’s all that matters! 🙂

  3. 20th August 2017 / 10:51 am

    I had a couple of village hall parties but glad when kids old enough to have either a fun adventure out like Tree Top Nets, Go Ape etc or a sleepover with just 3 friends!

    • BeckyBrightSide
      29th August 2017 / 10:36 am

      Oh yes! Can’t wait for adventure parties. We loved tree top nets, that would be a great party!

  4. 20th August 2017 / 11:01 am

    Hi Becky – I’ve just discovered your blog! I remember your old blog and did not know where you had moved to! I’ve recently returned to blogging with a new name after taking a fairly long break.

    I agree with you that children’s parties can be a real headache. I always suffer from the anxiety that no one will want to come (not even that they won’t be able to, just that they won’t want to!) they take an enormous amount of effort and the costs can really add up. I guess at the end of the day though it is about what the birthday child is happy with. My almost six year old is adamant that we are doing another whole class party this year, but I’m pretty adamant that will be the last one! A three day trip to London sounds like an amazing alternative and I hope you both enjoy!

    • BeckyBrightSide
      29th August 2017 / 10:38 am

      Hello! I’m glad you’ve found me again! Your new blog is lovely!
      I know what you mean – it came to organising time this year and I just felt I couldn’t handle the stress of it all again! I had a crazy year at school and a lovely trip away seemed like a much better option. I’m not saying never again but just not for now. Anxiety no-one will come is definitely stressful! Our party was August 27th last year and I was worried with it being the end of summer but it all worked out for the best in the end and she was happy with it – which is all that matters!

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